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Radical Self Care Tips for Neurodivergent Motherhood

Most healthcare professionals working with our families rarely inquire about how we are coping. Several years ago, in those early days of Nai’s diagnosis, one of the first things to fall away for my husband Kes and I both was traditional self care; for me, hair and nail appointments became sporadic, and retail therapy (shopping on lunch breaks was cardio y'all, lol) became unrealistic. And it’s because, ultimately, Moms like us require something deeper than fleeting escapes and empty consumption; we need radical self care. 

According to Learn & Unlearn: Anti-Racism Guide: “Radical self-care is the prioritization of placing your needs before someone else's. Radical self-care is carving out a space for yourself by defining your own self-care. It is radical because it is the act of fully engaging in self-care and ourselves. We know ourselves the best, what we are feeling, and what we need. It is because we know ourselves best, that we can assert what it is that we need. When we are addressing ourselves, it positively trickles out to the community and the environment around us. It is healing. It is self-acceptance. It is radical.”

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Ways to Take Action on International Women’s Day and Beyond

We all know the world is bigger than our backyard. But stress has a way of shrinking us into these bubbles of survival. On this International Women’s Day, we cannot forget, no matter how much we face in our individual lives, we belong to each other. As writer and poet Gwendolyn Brooks told us decades ago: “We are each other's harvest; we are each other's business; we are each other's magnitude and bond.”

As the current administration within the U.S. and governments throughout the world attempt to silence the voices of women and girls, especially those who are most marginalized because of disability, race / ethnicity, etc., we must continually take action, advocating like a mother. As Greta Thunberg, a neurodivergent climate activist, insists: “Once we start to act, hope is everywhere. So instead of looking for hope, look for action. Then, and only then, hope will come.” I am uplifting sustainable ways to take action on International Women’s Day and beyond.

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